What Does Jennifer Lawrence Have That You Don’t? 03/03/2014


Hey did you see Jennifer Lawrence at the Oscars last night? How crazy that she fell again coming in on the red carpet. But wow, you have to applaud her for being nominated for a second year in a row.
I really liked Pharrell Williams and his performance of Happy. What’s not to love with Ellen as host. She is so funny. But about the Oscars. So the big award for Best Picture.  Something like 9 films nominated for best picture this year.  Incredible talent.  How did you do guessing which one would win? Did you pick it right?  Gravity won so many Oscars but congratulations to 12 Years a Slave for Best Picture. 

As far as all the preparation goes, I heard they spent days rolling out the red carpet early so they could build the rain tunnel over it to keep all the stars comfortable.  Some pretty famous people walk that red carpet every year.  I find myself wondering if this is what they thought they would be doing when they grew up?  Like them I’m sure, we all grew up wondering and dreaming about what we wanted to be.

So I have a question for you.  As you were watching did you say to yourself or out loud, “I am Oscar worthy?”  If you did I bet you know what it is you do better than anyone else?  Good for you.
Over the years I have worked with hundreds of people many who never really understood or had language to describe what it was that made them unique or gifted.  Some had lived decades and were still confused about what they wanted to be when they grew up and what if anything was truly special about them.  Many of them were not able to realize on a very basic level that they were doing it every day of their lives.

If you are like them and not too clear about what it is you do that could get you nominated for a life Oscar keep reading. The truth of the matter is, you are already successful at something.  You have times in your life you can look back on and remember when you felt good about your accomplishments or had that feeling that your contribution towards some goal or activity seemed effortless.  The problem for many of us is distraction.  We try to do so many things or feel a requirement to do what others want us to do.  In doing so we limit our success. We spread ourselves too thin and allow ourselves to be conditioned to do things we don’t enjoy or don’t do very well.  If this sounds like you, know you are not alone.   Sometimes I like to ask people I am working with, why do people call you?  What do others know about you that moves them to call you when they have a need or a want?  Do they call you because you are a good listener?  Do they call you because they know you are always up for a great time?  Do they call you because you seem to have insight or wisdom that always provides a calming effect or clarity to help them through a difficult situation?  These answers can begin to give you a hint as to what makes you unique.  It is in these places where you are most successful and probably Oscar worthy every day.  You just show up and do what you do. All of us can love Jennifer Lawrence and Leonardo Dicaprio for what it is they do but in the end we need to know they have nothing on you or me except maybe a little more money.   More importantly from my perspective is to encourage you to watch yourself this week, pay attention and be curious.  Notice what it is you do. Then celebrate it with an after Oscar party of your own.  Remember the best quote of the night said by the Oscar winner for Best Original Song “Never let fear or shame keep you from being who you really are.” You are what you do!

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